In our generations we have killed all the gods except for Aphrodite. All our sacred creeds are long forgotten, except one: I love you. These are our holy words. As the world trade centers flamed in lower Manhattan in the late twentieth century scores of people had time for only one phone call. They virtually all uttered the same sacred credo. I love you. Aphrodite is the goddess of love. Love is the answer. We cry out I love you in the face of death because love is stronger than death. Outrageous love is the opposite of dissolution and deconstruction and destruction. Outrageous love is the only force that is more powerful than entropy. Outrageous love is the eros of life itself.
The common use of the word love has grown stale. Even the credo ‘I love you” has begun to go the way of all credos, losing so much meaning for so many. The words have become tepid and worn. Their thrusting power made flaccid by tedium and their nurturing power dried by insecurity and fear. When words lose their power, culture collapses. The center does not hold.
Love has contracted and shriveled because love has been exiled. Love has been made small. It is why we always tell our students and friends, “never marry for love”. Or, “our love lists are to short”. They are shocked. And we continue and say, “If you look to marriage as the sole place to find love then your marriage will collapse”. We have exiled love to the merely human, and to very limited forms of human interaction. Love however is much bigger.
Outrageous Love is both the currency of connection between human beings and the essential eros that drives the evolutionary process as a whole. OutrageousLove is the eros of all relationship even as it is the very eros of evolution itself. Personal and impersonal love are one. One love. Evolutionary love. Outrageous love.
This is an excerpt from the forthcoming book “Outrageous Love” by Dr. Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid. Read a longer version here.