The Distinction between Ordinary Love and Outrageous Love

An unedited first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid

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Our Invitation to You

Are you ready to play a larger game with love?   So here’s how: Start writing Outrageous Love Letters. Prayer?  Lovely!  Meditation? Sweet! You want to get there? Write Outrageous Love Letters! So here’s [...] [Read More ...]

The Path and Practice of Writing Outrageous Love Letters

An unedited first draft text from the forthcoming book The Path and Practice of Outrageous Love by Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid

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Key Talks on Outrageous Love

Are you ready to play a larger game with love? Come on, I’ll show how.

So here’s how:

Begin writing Outrageous Love Letters. No, really, begin writing Outrageous Love Letters.

Here’s a little background: In every moment we have the opportunity to be open or to be closed. In other words, we have the choice to love the moment open or we choose to remain closed, and the moment remains close.

When we love the moment open, something amazing happens. A new reality is born. A new goodness is born. A new idea is born. Something happens.

So get this: When we write an Outrageous Love Letters, we actually access the capacity to love the moment open.

From here we begin to connect with love; the love intelligence that lives in us, as us, and through us, uniquely. Cool! Yeah?

The ongoing practice of writing Outrageous Love Letters works out your love muscles instead of contracting and clenching and staying small.

It’s kind of like going to the gym and working out. Like an exercise of the heart. As you continue the practice of writing Outrageous Love Letters, you become aware, yes, you, love are outrageous love letters itself. Really! No, really! That, my loves, is a shift in identity that literally changes everything.

So, dear Lover, are you ready to step up and play a larger game? Outrageous Love wants you now!

(Whispering) Outrageous Love wants you now!

Dr. Kristina Kincaid

Writing Outrageous Love Letters at Success 3.0 Summit

Watch and try the practice of Writing Outrageous Love Letters that Marc introduced during the Summit:

While ordinary love is an emotion, a reaction, and even a strategy of the ego, it is Outrageous Love that is the love that moves the entire process of evolution. So, how can we access the outrageous lover in us? The answer is: by writing outrageous love letters.

Writing and Reading Outrageous Love Letters - Click for more Photos from the SummitIn Marc’s words from his 2nd Summit keynote:

“You can write an Outrageous Love Letter to yourself. You can write it to a friend or a lover. You can write it to Source. But do it outrageously. Do it as reality itself.”

And with that he invited everyone in the room to write an outrageous love letter. The two lines of people wanting to share their letters at the mics were still long when time ran out. People were deeply moved by that experience and practice.

Watch his talk here:

Iris Benrubi & Marc Gafni at the Passion and Intimacy Summit 2015: Outrageous Love

Iris Benrubi, Simply Success, interviewed Marc Gafni as part of her “Passion and Intimacy Summit.”

After the interview, Iris wrote:

Marc Gafni is brilliant. He is a visionary thinker and wisdom teacher that shares on this magnificent interview what love is really about and how you can create something outstanding with your partner…..and he calls it Outrageous Love. You learn the 3 Mistakes people make in love and gives us strategies we can begin right now to create more love and more passion in our lives ….and I’ve already started one of his strategies and I love the difference it’s made in my life.

Some of what you’ll learn is:

  • The relationship between love, romance and infatuation
  • How outrageous love is different than ordinary love
  • What loneliness is truly about and what you can learn from it
  • The abundant love that’s available to you if you’re open to it……  and how to get it!
  • What the 2nd chapter in the book of Genesis says about love
  • What your “soul print” is and it’s purpose

Watch the video interview:


In April 2014, Dr. Marc Gafni gave this keynote “The Wounds of Love and Transforming our World” at the WOWTalksLive.

WOW stands for “Women in Wellness” and The WOW Talks brings together hundreds of women and brave, courageous men for the purpose of connecting, collaborating, and celebrating. Dr. Gafni joined speakers Dr. John Gray, famed author of “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”, Dr. Leslie Hewitt, author of “The New Glossary”, and others on an inspiring speaker lineup.

He was introduced by Tbird Luv and his talk received standing ovations.

Watch his talk here:

Dharma Circle Teachings 2013

In 2013, Marc Gafni held two Dharma Circle Teachings on Outrageous Love in San Francisco.

Enjoy The Path of the Evolutionary Lover here:

For the audio version, click here>>>

Venwoude Circle 2013: Outrageous Love Letters

This recording is from Marc Gafni’s teachings with the Circle of Venwoude.

What the Circle is… from the Venwoude website:

You have to do it yourself, but you don’t have to do it alone. The Circle is the group of people living at, or connected with, Venwoude Integral Practice Community. They have chosen to be on the Path together, to continuously deepen and evolve their Practice. Some are together for more than 15 years, others joined in recently. There is openness, support and involvement and deep gratitude. We look for cutting edge teachings and teachers and we invite them to study with us as teachers in residence.

In Dr. Marc Gafni we found both the greatness of vision and the depth of LOVE, that challenges us and inspires us. Below you will find a series of fantastic and challenging sessions that Marc Gafni offers monthly to the Circle. What you’ll hear is the unplugged rendering of this beautiful material.

Enjoy this unplugged Skype Teaching for the Venwoude Circle here:

Marc Gafni: Outrageous Pain, Outrageous Love–Remix by John Tarcza

The Center for Integral Wisdom is pleased to share a spontaneous artistic creation inspired by a recent event of ours in connection with Shalom Mountain.

John Tarcza tells us that a “wild idea started to stir and evolve uncontrollably” in him while editing audio recordings from the weekend. He combined a few minutes of reflections by Marc Gafni with music (Erik Satie Gnossienne No. 1, Buddha Bar remix) … and created this wonderful combination. John has graciously allowed us to share it with you.


Stream the audio and read the transcript here:

For more audios on Outrageous Love, click here>>>

For more talks on Outrageous Love, see the Outrageous Acts of Love Portal>>>