We live in a world of outrageous pain.

The only response to outrageous pain is outrageous love!

This is your invitation to awaken to the Path of the Outrageous Lover.

What does an outrageous lover do?

First: An outrageous lover keeps every boundary that should be kept, and breaks every boundary that should be broken.

And with that principle in mind, an outrageous lover commits outrageous acts of love.

An outrageous act of love addresses a unique need in your circle of intimacy and influence, which you are uniquely capable of addressing. In this way, your outrageous act of love stands in the face of all the outrageous pain in the world and in your own circles.

You are a unique expression of the love-beauty and love-intelligence of all that is – with the capacity to perform outrageous acts of love. These acts of love are yours to initiate – to take response-ability for – and they are the joy and the delight of your life.

So, commit an outrageous act of love.

Then write us and tell us about it.

You can write us in two ways:

Send an email with your story of an outrageous act of love.

Or send an actual post card or letter.

The letter that you send us, telling the story of your outrageous act of love, is one form of outrageous love letter. Think of it as an outrageous love letter from you to all of reality.

We will share it with all of reality – via our virtual Home Page.

The virtual address to send your outrageous love letter to is:

The physical address to send a physical outrageous love letter or postcard to is:


Outrageous Love
P.O. Box 396
Bluemont, Virginia 20135


This is the first path of the outrageous lover.

This first path has three distinct steps:

  1. Commit an outrageous act of love.
  2. Write about it. Share what you did – outrageously – in an outrageous love letter to Reality.
  3. Send us your outrageous love letter and we will share it with the world on our website

Why is it important to share your letter?

It will catalyze and inspire other outrageous lovers around the world.

This is not a place for holding back. We need the holy audacity of your Unique Self to step up to the plate and share your letter with us.

Here is a second path for the outrageous lover:

This involves a second form of outrageous love letter.

Simply write an outrageous love letter:

  • to a friend
  • to a beloved
  • to someone who has until now been incidental in your life
  • to an enemy or adversary.
  • Or to all of the above!

Send the letter to them – and us – or just to us.

We will post it for you in the virtuous world of the virtual – on our website:

In this second path there are two steps.

  1. Write an outrageous love letter.
  2. Send it to us.

via email at this address:

or via snail mail post at this address:


Outrageous Love
P.O. Box 396
Bluemont, Virginia 20135


Your outrageous love letter will inspire other outrageous lovers to wake up and write outrageous love letters around the globe.

For examples of Outrageous Acts of Love see our Acts of Love Menu and our Outrageous Acts of Love Homepage.

For more on Outrageous Love Letters see our Outrageous Love Letters Portal and our Outrageous Love Letters Homepage.

A collaboration between
Marc Gafni,
Kristina Kincaid,
and the Center for Integral Wisdom