Wake Up, Grow Up, Show Up Series with Lisa Engles and Marc Gafni

In this sixth installment of our series, Marc talks about joy and happiness as a byproduct of the passionate pursuit of your Unique Self.

Your Unique Self is your unique plug into the energy of reality, of all that is. By living your Unique Self you plug into the joy and energy that you need to commit your unique acts of Outrageous Love.

Wake Up, Grow Up, Show Up Series with Lisa Engles and Marc Gafni

In this fifth installment of our series, Marc elaborates on the outrageous acts of love that the Outrageous Lover commits.

First of all, it is important to understand that the Outrageous Lover keeps every boundary that should be kept and breaks every boundary that should be broken. The boundaries that need to be broken are the boundaries of our contraction, our smallness, of living our beliefs, the belief that we are irrelevant, that we are an extra on the set.

The Outrageous Lover commits the outrageous acts of love that are the function of his or her unique perspective and quality of intimacy.

Evolution awakens in and as me in person. That is another profound shift in identity from Unique Self to Evolutionary Unique Self.

As Evolutionary Unique Self I am enlivened by all that is. This allows me to live a life of joy – the joy of purpose, of delight, and of being needed – which is unlike any other life.

Wake Up, Grow Up, Show Up Series with Lisa Engles and Marc Gafni.

In this fourth installment of our series, Marc talks about the difference between ordinary love and Outrageous Love.

“To know yourself is to awaken as an Outrageous Lover, an Evolutionary Lover.”


Wake Up, Grow Up, Show Up Series with Lisa Engles & Marc Gafni

In this third installment of our series, Marc talks about what it actually means to be a unique expression of the Love-Intelligence and Love-Beauty of the Cosmos.

From the video:

The Love-Intelligence of the Cosmos is the understanding that the Universe is not only intelligent–that it drives to higher and higher orders of complexity and consciousness–but that it feels: The Universe feels love.

All of reality has exteriors and interiors. Love is not reducible to its exterior: the cocktail of neurochemicals that are secreted in a human being. Love has an interior that expresses itself as an exterior.

On the exterior of the Universe, there are the physical laws that drive particles, molecules, and cells to make contact and connect. On the interior we can call this drive love.

Looking at this, we can say that love and yearning are constituent features of the Cosmos.

When we say that you are an irreducibly unique expression of the Love-Intelligence and Love-Beauty of the Cosmos, we mean that this quality of allurement, this drive for contact, which drives all Cosmos, is now awakening in you. You are a unique expression of that quality of the Cosmos. You are a unique set of allurements that constitute your Unique Self.

Wake Up, Grow Up, Show Up Series with Lisa Engles & Marc Gafni

In this second installment, Marc answers the question what it really means to live–as our beloved Co-Board Chair of the Center for Integral Wisdom, Barbara Marx Hubbard calls it–”telerotic” life?

The word telerotic combines the Greek words Telos meaning Purpose, End, or Goal and Eros that Marc defines as Radical Aliveness Moving towards Contact which Fosters Creativity.

To live a telerotic life means as Marc puts so beautifully “to be out there, to be in here, living the unique quality of intimacy that is you, giving your unique gifts, addressing that unique need, fulfilling the unique obligation which is the unique love-dance, love-gift of your life. That’s the beginning of wholeness, that’s the beginning of joy, that’s the beginning of radical aliveness, it’s the beginning of vitality, and it’s the beginning of ethics, it’s the whole story; and it all stems from one place: the answer to the question of “Who Are You?”


This weekly series of dharma portions inquires deeply into the reality of the Self, the nature of Love, and the Eros of Evolution.

What does it mean to Wake Up, Grow Up, and Show Up?

In this first installation, Marc responds to two questions:

1. What does it mean to change the source code of culture?
2. Who are you?